Self Compassion: The Antidote for Self-Judgement

Yesterday, I screwed up.

It’s not the first time….and it won’t be the last.

It was a bad parenting moment.

And the first thing I did afterwards was beat myself up.

And then the second thing I did was get angry at my child.

Internally calling him ungrateful etc…

And then when I calmed down, I realized that getting angry at him

Was easier than looking within to see the reflection in the mirror

Where I am focusing on what I don’t have rather than what I have

On what I lack rather than the many strengths and resources within.

It is so easy to forget that when you struggle with a situation or a person,

That struggle offers the opportunity to hold that mirror up—to really look at ourselves

With a calm, steady view and with kindness.

So, next time you have a painful exchange or when a situation arises that challenges you,

Or if you find yourself feeling critical of someone in your life.

Ask yourself, what are the parts within you that need your self-compassion?